“When we walked into a big gala fundraiser party at Chelsea Piers wearing matching tuxedos, he said, ‘Just remember – we’re not here as a couple.'”
“We had been seeing each other for 2 years and his only brother was getting married in 2 months. He informed me I would not be his date for the wedding.”
You’ve been purposefully led down a path to believe you are together in some meaningful way. But while some actions say “yes,” significant “no” incidents keep cropping up.
You should speak to your honey in clear terms about your expectations and how s/he has disappointed you. Try to keep calm and talk about feeling humiliated rather than being hysterical about it. Use your words and your ears. There is opportunity to clarify and improve things. But if you’re not happy with the result, walking away is worth considering.