My boyfriend is very concerned about being seen, especially when driving around in classic ’64 Mustang. He likes to play loud music and profile in the car. And never lets me wear my seatbelt.
My Ernesto and I have been going together for 2 years. Now he’s trying to refuse to wear a condom. He says he’s “clean” and that since he’s the man, he should decide when we have a child.
These male significant others are not just creating a situation that’s dangerous. They are also depriving their women of any choice in the matter.
Maybe not today, maybe not tomorrow, you must consider getting out of this relationship. Sorry but the man values himself over you. Your health and safety are trivial matters to these men who are not committed to you in any marriage. You can take steps toward harm-reduction by finding excuses not to ride with your boyfriend, to use female condoms and other contraceptive technology. You can also guess what’s coming down the line. If you’re very lucky, the risk won’t become consequences. But odds are, a car crash or venereal disease may shorten if not end your life.