HELPING YOU TO HELP THEMSELVES

LOVE SCENE INVESTIGATION

I was involved with a minor fender-bender and a traffic cop assisted to write up the report and oversee my exchange of information with the at-fault driver.  He was a friendly, good-looking guy.  After the incident was over, I was surprised when he called my cell phone and said he was in the area near my house.  He didn’t seem like a weirdo but he only got my info because he was a cop.  When I begged off seeing him that first time, he kept popping by my neighborhood.  I can’t be sure but it seemed like he felt that I owed him a date or whatever for simply doing his job.

-Jill N.

I bought my first home in a gated community on the South end of Las Vegas, Nevada.  My next door neighbor Steve is a fatherly divorcee with two grown sons. I had some water damage around my garage baseboards and Steve helped me find a contractor for cleaning up the damage.  In the process, Steve cased me and my house.  I do live alone and I don’t have a boyfriend since I just moved here. Now he tries to come over any time and foist himself into the role of being my new boyfriend.  Now I don’t want to “s*** where I rest at” so how can I salt his game without incurring hostility?

-Brandy Y.

WARNING SIGNALS

These dudes are being helpful and that’s real swell.  But that’s their foot in the door.  Their help is a gesture that’s supposed to get you beyond being grateful to feeling obligated.  Men are often dominant when asking a woman out but showing up in your neighborhood or on your doorstep is extra.  It’s pushy as all get-out.  Each dude is implying that you won’t say “no” so why should they allow you to?  Intimidation with a smile and a hand on your waist is very much plain old intimidation.

TROUBLE-SHOOTING

Do you know any large African American men preferably with some jail time, or at least street credibility?  Somebody who could do a little stop-by or three?  Just kidding.  Not really kidding though. It’s a touchy situation.  These are more situations where each man is hoping that you’re on your own, lonesome and vulnerable.  Saying “no” could be enough. But still a strong male presence on a regular basis will never go to waste.

4 thoughts on “HELPING YOU TO HELP THEMSELVES

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